I’m turning 25 on Sunday, so to celebrate I flew my mommy to NYC (her first time here), and we’re going to do all the things. She just texted me saying she cried when she saw the city out the window of the plane.
Stop blaming black children for their own murders. STOP BLAMING BLACK CHILDREN FOR THEIR OWN MURDERS. Stop blaming black children for their own goddamn fucking murders. Stop blaming black children for their own murders.
Privilege is the fact that when all other things being equal, you still wouldn’t switch places with the person across the table, i.e.:
A skinny woman with the exact same hair, eyes, lips, nose, health-level, and income as a fat woman would not switch places with her if given the opportunity.
A white man with the exact same education level, socioeconomic status, and living conditions would not switch places with a black man if given the opportunity.
A cis-gendered man with the same job, same apartment, same body-type, would not switch places with a transwoman/gay man/woman etc., if given the opportunity.
So when you get on your soap box about how one time someone made you personally feel bad as proof that privilege doesn’t exist, ask yourself if you would switch places with the oppressed. Ask yourself if people who look like you are the ones who really need to be uplifted or protected. Ask yourself if even with the bad thing that happened to you, if you are disadvantaged for the rest of your life because of it. Ask yourself if you’d rather be on the other side of the issue.
Hey I'm planning to move to NY soon and I was wondering how do you look for an apartment when you're new to new york?
Looking for an apartment in NYC is no joke. It’s stressful. You have to be really really ready and really really ready for shit to not work out. I had the most Cinderella-story moving experience, so I’ll just let you know how I did it. I’m thinking of getting my own place in the next year, and even thinking about it is so draining:
1. The Finance-y Part: Decide what percentage of your hard earned money you want to spend on having somewhere to store your bed. In NYC, it’s common for people to allocate 50% of their income to rent and utilities, so be realistic with what you’ll be making and find somewhere to live on that alone. I promise you you will be let down by your prospects, unless you’re a Gossip Girl or a descendant of a famous person.
Also, decide if you’re willing to pay a broker’s fee (gag), or for like a credit check. There’s all kinds of fees and crap and first month, last month, and security deposits. I spent like $5,000 on the initial move. I hope your coping skills are sufficient, because watching your savings drain like a public pool on Labor Day is traumatizing.
2. The Borough Choosing Part: I live in Brooklyn. I love Brooklyn. I find that it’s still got a cultural heart beat and it’s still possible to live in up and coming neighborhoods on a budget. Some people love/stan for Manhattan, but I work in Manhattan so I see it enough anyway. There’s also Queens, The Bronx, and if you don’t mind a year-long commute to work, Staten Island. Depending on your age/where your office will be/if you want friends to visit you, you’ll choose the right place. But yeah, I’m involved with BK.
3. The Last-Ditch Craigslist-y Part: When I first landed in Brooklyn— young, clean, not-jaded—I stayed on a friend’s couch and scoured Craigslist for hours and emailed randos for apartment tours. I decided that living alone wasn’t really in the [credit] cards, so I looked for “rooms for rent” and subletting. I checked out 3 apartments my first 2 days in the city, and heard back from one within my price-range that was luckily down the street from my friends’ apartments and moved in. It is certainly easier to get an apartment once you’re already here in the city, but make sure you have friends that won’t hate you for staying up to a week at their place—or budget for a hotel. Be aware, though, hotels are pretty expensive and hard to come by here, too.
I hope this helps. There are loads of real estate companies and websites, but I’ve only used Craigslist so far. Are there any New Yorkers that have advice?
“Sometimes you end up never speaking to someone who meant the world to you again. And that’s okay. You cope and you survive. Don’t let your losses keep you back from new gains.”—I wish someone had told me this when I was hurting, y.g. (via fearlessknightsandfairytales)
As a dancer, I've heard that black ballerina's are rare because a lot of them are too muscular or aren't the right body size/shape. Preferably Tall, petite, easy to lift, delicate looking women, even though they're insanely muscular. So it's not like there aren't any non white ballerinas, but the ratio of white dancers to non white is ridiculous. We definitely need more girls like Misty Copeland and Michaela Deprince.
“I’m also a killer. I’ve killed a lot, and if I need to I’ll kill a whole bunch more. If you don’t want to get killed, don’t show up in front of me.”—Actual quote from Ferguson “law enforcement” officer and 35-year police veteran, Dan Page. But hey, let’s keep focusing on all those unreasonable “looters and rioters” (via staininyourbrain)
“Today, the United States is No. 1 in billionaires, No. 1 in corporate profits, No. 1 in CEO salaries, NO. 1 in childhood poverty and NO. 1 in income and wealth inequality in the industrialized world.”—Senator, Bernie Sanders. (via nzingasconquests)
You know what I hear in my head whenever people talk about Blue Ivy’s hair: “Beyoncé has all the money to make Blue look more white but she just let’s her walk around looking so black. Cause that’s essentially what your hatin’ asses are saying.